Another rant...

[Orange Pedeanaut]

Its been a rough six months or so guys... I lost my grandma Sharon a couple months back to cancer, then my great grandma Thora a month or so later... My last grandmother on my dads side fell and broke her hip 2 weeks ago, she is 84. My uncle Howie who has been in a wheelchair since he was 21 or so fell trying to move to his bed and broke his leg in 3 places. We have had storms, flooding, tornadoes, etc. over the last couple weeks. My wife and I almost got divorced for a second time recently... I hurt my back and shoulder again and still dont know how. Last night my moms house was broken into while she was sleeping in the next room, they took her purse and laptop with over 24000 pictures on it, including ones that her and my grandpa have been scanning from the late 1800's till now of family... It has just been one thing after another... my truck window broke, my tires went flat, my wifes car got a nail in the tire and had to spend 170$ on two tires for it. My new motor on my 86 Chevy I just built wont idle and dies when im at a stop light... My daughter got head lice AGAIN from going to my wifes grandmas, shes 2 and shouldnt have to go through that crap...

Does it ever get better? It just seems like its one thing after another.... Sorry, just had to rant a little so I could maybe feel better. Had too many beers and been depressed I suppose... raining again too, great, gotta sump the basement again tomorrow morning lol... When it rains it pours huh? Anyone but me had bad luck lately? Maybe itll help to post and we will all feel better about how bad we think we have it...

 

[bpare207]

Sorry to hear that man. I'm 23 but the best advice that I can give you is keep your head up and push on. Positive attitude in times of hardship will always overcome the sadness. Good luck and just don't roll over, that's what quitters do, and I'm sure that you aren't a quitter.

 

[23t5]

Sorry for your loss I've had a run of bad luck back in October my house burnt down luckily my wife and kids got out ok but we lost just about everything but the garage and the master bedroom, ithen lost my job and now staying with my mother in law it's good to know that we do have people to rant to

 

[mcfig]

I know this may sound cheesie, but this has meant something to me when I had some rough times.

From the movie Cast Away with Tom Hanks. Don't know if you have seen it, but he was a cast away on a island for a couple years and his then wife moved on cause everyone thought he was dead. When on the island he thought of killing himself, but then one day the tide brought in a piece of plastic that he was able to use as a sail to get off the island.

You have to keep breathing, the sun will rise tomorrow and who knows what the tide will bring in.

[video=youtube;qaA_fSYfmTQ]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qaA_fSYfmTQ[/video]

 

[dirtovalrich]

You just have to take one thing at a time and make the best of every day. Talking with good friends to help vent out your problems. hope this helps

 

[william g]

keep your head up, and on straight too. I have too many friends who climb in the bottle when things happen and it usually makes things worse.

Your still young enough Nick, and one of the most level headed young men I know, things will get better you just need to give it time. :tmb

 

[Manfjourde]

Ima huge LOTR fan and always remember this scene in times of sadness:

Frodo: I wish the Ring had never come to me. I wish none of this had happened.
Gandalf: So do all who live to see such times, but that is not for them to decide. All we have to decide is what to do with the time that is given to us.
Lord of the Rings - Fellowship of the Ring 0

It reminds me that stuff will always happen but if I can be positive, making the best use of our time, turn to Christ (ima religious man too) and believe in what He taught, all will be well.

This is a nice vid about the power of HOPE.

 

[kevinatfms]

whenever i have a really bad streak of stuff happen, i take a few moments and watch the bill pullman scene from independence day where he is on the back of the hummer and gives his speach. it seems to inspire me to get up and go and do the best i can every day and to not let anything no matter how bad it is take me down.

guck luck and things will get better. "the night is darkest just before the dawn"

 

[JKRacing37]

Everyone goes through adversity, some worse than others, but it always seems to be concentrated in bunches. Like the old saying goes bad news comes in threes. I don't think that is totally true but a lot of the time it sure seems to come in bunches.

First things first - IMO you have to get your marriage on solid ground. You and your wife are partners in everything you will encounter together in life. You two have to be a support system for each other. If you don't have the solid support system at home and there is stress at home then where can you go to get that support you both need? If you think the issues between the two of you are beyond working out at home, get some counseling. If you can't afford counseling contact your county human health services department and they can direct you to low or no cost counseling.

I thank God everyday for my wife and the relationship we have. We have been through a lot together - we lost a child due to a miscarriage, her brother was killed, my daughter was trying to jump the gun and pop out at 21 weeks, I had a couple bad injuries and had extended time off work, my best friend as killed, and I really could go on and on. We have been though a lot. Lots of job related stress as well. Through it all we have had a solid relationship and are each other's rock when facing adversity and I could not imagine having gone though everything we have without each other.

We also have a great support group through the church. God has always been there for us...it might not have been the preferred road or time line that we would have preferred but everything has always worked out in the end.

Be thankful that you knew your grandparents that have passed, and especially thankful for your great grandmother. I never knew any of my greats - and only knew three of my grands. I never met my grandpa on my dad's side...I hear stories about him all the time from other family members. It hurts losing them but try to celebrate their lives and remember the good times.

It's cliche, I know - but be thankful that things have happened to you or your mom and it's only material items being harmed or stolen. After the loss they have had in Alabama with the tornadoes be thankful you're only dealing with floods. I know it sucks, I know it doesn't make it much better, but it could be A LOT worse. You mom could have been raped, or kidnapped, or even killed. It's only pictures. I know, I was dumb dumb dumb and didn't back up any of my pictures and lost almost all of them. I was really mad at first but now it's only pictures.

Sounds like your truck might have a vacuum leak. Check all vacuum lines and any capped lines for cracks or holes in the lines or caps. Crank up the idle speed so it will idle in park (if it can) and spray some carb cleaner around the intake and listen for a change in idle speed. That will let you know if you have a leak at the intake.

Like Bill said...watch the bottle. Seems like a good idea at the time but it can quickly lead to a cycle of depression, drinking, and more depression.

Hang in there. You'll get through this...you and your family together will get through this.

 

[CPH extreme]

NO BOTTLE, unless its NOS for the heavy chevy....lol
sorry to hear of your loss, i recently had my aunt die so i feel your pain... marriage was on the rocks due to personal stuff,loss job ECT.
I said to heck with everything and worked on marriage, lifes been turning around every since...now i am about to sign final paper's for medical college and have a lead already for work in the medical field....
as bill and JK said keep your head up and straight, and if needed check with local pastor :tmb


when i get down i say to myself...

EVERYDAY ABOVE GROUND IS A GOOD DAY:tmb

 

[Orange Pedeanaut]

Thanks for the kind words everybody. Im not trying to whine or anything, just helps to have people to talk to who listen... And hopefully the stories we share help others feel better when they think they have it bad... someone always has it worse. Another thing thats hard is one of my best friends since grade school moved to NC with his mother and we still keep in touch on the phone but its just not the same without him here. Seems like everyone I get close to moves away, all my life... but im glad ive gotten to meet the people I have and still have great memories from them. I know things will get better but sometimes you feel like it just keeps going downhill. I think I just need some nice weather so I can go do some burnouts and go mudding, that will make me feel better lol.

 

[ClodMonster]

It's best to get out and do things to take things off your mind and enjoy life to the fullest.

 

[Digger]

I know exactly what you mean. It seems that the last year or so has been rougher than normal. While trying to make the majority of people at the track happy by booting out a bad apple, him and his followers went out and built their own track then proceeded to call and call everyone from my track and have managed to convice many of them to go there instead. Seems they have forgotten about being hacked, coerced or belittled by this guy. Either that or they are being promised ponies or something. I had to sell a quad to replace my g/f's van, then got taken on craigslist, ending up with a car with a bad frame. Now I'm stuck with it. The Hummer got damaged in the hailstorm when tornados rolled through the area and the insurance company is dragging their feet about fixing it. At work I got in trouble for something beyond my control and in punishment, they moved me to a different station and have been scheduling me to interferre with me running the track. We wont be able to do our annual trip to visit my father in Tucson because I got sick this winter and had to use up my vacation time, plus we just don't have the money for gas, let alone food for the trip. I could go on and on, but remembering everything is starting to depress me more. All I can do is just keep breathing and hope the tide brings something good tomorrow...

 

[Sonic0620]

Everyone goes through adversity, some worse than others, but it always seems to be concentrated in bunches. Like the old saying goes bad news comes in threes. I don't think that is totally true but a lot of the time it sure seems to come in bunches.

First things first - IMO you have to get your marriage on solid ground. You and your wife are partners in everything you will encounter together in life. You two have to be a support system for each other. If you don't have the solid support system at home and there is stress at home then where can you go to get that support you both need? If you think the issues between the two of you are beyond working out at home, get some counseling. If you can't afford counseling contact your county human health services department and they can direct you to low or no cost counseling.

I thank God everyday for my wife and the relationship we have. We have been through a lot together - we lost a child due to a miscarriage, her brother was killed, my daughter was trying to jump the gun and pop out at 21 weeks, I had a couple bad injuries and had extended time off work, my best friend as killed, and I really could go on and on. We have been though a lot. Lots of job related stress as well. Through it all we have had a solid relationship and are each other's rock when facing adversity and I could not imagine having gone though everything we have without each other.

We also have a great support group through the church. God has always been there for us...it might not have been the preferred road or time line that we would have preferred but everything has always worked out in the end.

Be thankful that you knew your grandparents that have passed, and especially thankful for your great grandmother. I never knew any of my greats - and only knew three of my grands. I never met my grandpa on my dad's side...I hear stories about him all the time from other family members. It hurts losing them but try to celebrate their lives and remember the good times.

It's cliche, I know - but be thankful that things have happened to you or your mom and it's only material items being harmed or stolen. After the loss they have had in Alabama with the tornadoes be thankful you're only dealing with floods. I know it sucks, I know it doesn't make it much better, but it could be A LOT worse. You mom could have been raped, or kidnapped, or even killed. It's only pictures. I know, I was dumb dumb dumb and didn't back up any of my pictures and lost almost all of them. I was really mad at first but now it's only pictures.

Sounds like your truck might have a vacuum leak. Check all vacuum lines and any capped lines for cracks or holes in the lines or caps. Crank up the idle speed so it will idle in park (if it can) and spray some carb cleaner around the intake and listen for a change in idle speed. That will let you know if you have a leak at the intake.

Like Bill said...watch the bottle. Seems like a good idea at the time but it can quickly lead to a cycle of depression, drinking, and more depression.

Hang in there. You'll get through this...you and your family together will get through this.

I couldn't say it any better. Just keep the faith man. Thats all you can do until the tire rolls around again and remember the bigger tires take the longest to turn. I'll add you to my prayer list.

 

[Orange Pedeanaut]

Always something Neil... I forgot about that too. We bought my wifes 2009 Cobalt last June, in August the neighbor backed into the drivers door, didnt have insurance and it never got fixed... Then in November some girl ran over the hood of her car while she was stopped in the turn lane on main street waiting to turn left... Got that fixed, 3500$ in damage all paid by the other girls insurance. New bumper, grill, etc. then the other day she is driving down the highway and a piece of scrap metal flies out of this truck in front of her and through the air, comes down right in front of the car and she hits it, destroys the front end again and had no idea what to do so she turned off and never got his license plate number, etc.

Ugh...